Family u choose !!!!

I have heard people say “Friends are family u choose”
When I came to Australia I left this choosen family behind… and now I miss my family and friends a lot!
Its not that I don’t know people here … I know a few people met them here and there.. But I wonder are they my frds??? Or just acquaintances??? Am I capable or for that matter is anyone capable of making frds once they grow up.. Don’t we just put new people we meet in a different compartment called “people I know” what does it take to change an acquaintance into a frd??? Is just spending time together enough or does it require something more… do friendships just happen or are they need to be worked upon.. all the frds I have till date are my childhood frds… friends I did not make on purpose they just happened… there has to be a common wavelength to share … something that needs to click … liking the same music, same movies and same food is not enough… liking to spend time together is important …. Sharing the same views is important… feeling the same thing abt something is important and if I want some one to be my friend then that some one should also want to be my friend… Someone to call up without reason some one to share some gossip… someone with whom I don’t need to be too formal …. Y does making friends look so difficult…
Does having a big friends list on websites like Orkut Facebook and Myspace mean that I am a better friend… or it just means I know many people… how many people on ur friends list will u actually call just becoz u were missing them… or just becoz u wanted to talk to someone… how many of them will not only know ur birthday becoz of the regular prompts by these networking websites but also know ur wedding anniversary becoz they were there…or they do care about remembering it...
Some say quantity of friends doesn’t matter only quality does…. But are we being too tight forming the quality parameters and judging that we finally forget how to make friends… Can’t we accept people as friends at the face value without passing judgments and without quality parameters… without expecting anything in return… just for the fact that at times we can be lonely and so can the other person… Just becoz we have realized how much friends are important ….

Will u be my friend – not just a person I know ????????